Maladaptive Behaviors Exacerbate Social Anxiety

Social anxiety, sometimes called social phobia, is that crippling fear of being judged negatively by other people. It is not uncommon for people with social anxiety typically to use maladaptive behaviors to manage their anxiety

Maladaptive behaviors are strategies the are deployed to relieve yourself of the feeling of anxiety. It is called maladaptive because it is not necessarily the healthiest way to deal with anxiety—the root cause of anxiety is not addressed.  These behaviors only provide some sort of a temporary distraction. If done frequently, it can make the social anxiety worse and even lead to social anxiety disorder (SAD).

Safety and Avoidance Behaviors

Avoidance behaviors are often done to keep oneself from and potentially anxiety-inducing situation. Some examples include flaking on invitations to a gathering, not showing up (despite initially agreeing), avoiding social interaction, and consuming substances.

Safety behaviors are a type of maladaptive behavior, albeit more subtle than avoidance. With safety behaviors, you do not avoid gathering and being with other people. You might allow yourself to attend some functions, but you avoid eye contact, taking on responsibilities at gatherings to avoid mingling with others—being a wallflower. You are there, but you do everything you can not to be seen.

To get rid of the feeling of anxiety, people with social anxiety may use maladaptive behaviors, not knowing that this can be harmful in the long run.

The Consequences

Many people with SAD go through their life avoiding social situations or engaging in safety behavior. However, this can have dire consequences in the long run. Over time, you might become more fearful of other people and social situations. You may struggle with having poor social skills. In the workplace, you may find yourself struggling to assert yourself in certain situations. You may opt to pass up on opportunities that can lead to professional growth.

How to Eliminate Maladaptive Behaviors

Maladaptive behaviors only provide a temporary solution to your concern. Replace these maladaptive behaviors with those that are adaptive. It might be hard at first, but you can get professional help to get you started.

Some adaptive behaviors include honing one’s social skills. You do not have to attend parties right away. Simply striking up a conversation with someone is a good place to start.

Develop a simple daily routine to keep yourself moving daily. Social anxiety can be crippling, so establishing a routine that will encourage you to get out of bed can be helpful during times when you feel like you can’t do anything.

Emotional regulation, although very difficult, can be the most helpful solution to maladaptive behaviors. Feelings of anxiety and impending doom can be overwhelming. Some people have found that meditation and breathing exercises help clear the mind when emotions become too much to handle.

Final Thoughts

Many people who suffer from social anxiety (whether diagnosed or not) use maladaptive behaviors to cope with feeling overwhelmed. If you are experiencing difficulties that mirror or are related to the points I previously discussed, do not hesitate to get professional help. Studies have shown that cognitive-behavior therapy and medication are some of the effective treatments for SAD.

Understanding the Long-Term Memory

When people talk about memory, they often refer to the long-term and short-term memory. As the name suggests, long-term memory lasts a long time, as opposed to short term memory, which only lasts a few seconds.

Memories that stay with you from anywhere between a few days to the past decades are said to be stored in the long-term memory. There is a scientific explanation as to how and why long term memories are stored for a given period.

Some Information About Long Term Memory

·                      Long term memories reside outside of our consciousness but are possible to access through the help of the working memory.

·                      It is possible to have strong and weak long-term memories: some memories pop up more quickly, while others take more time to access. Important memories are easier to recall. For example, you might be able to remember the details of your parents’ 40th wedding anniversary that you organized compared to that psychology final exam you took back in college.

·                      Long-term memories are strengthened when you frequently access them, thus making them easier to recall.

Duration of Long-Term Memory

How long a memory stays with you depends on a few things. First of all, if rehearsed and repeated for a period of time, a short term memory can become a long-term memory. Your disposition when a memory occurred plays an important role in creating memories. If you were alert or highly emotionally activated when a specific event happened, this memory will likely last a long time. How memory is stored and encoded also matters. The more you access and retrieve memories, the more easily it becomes a long term memory.

Types of Long-Term Memory

·                      Explicit memory is available in a person’s consciousness and can be accessed easily. Explicit memories are said to be either episodic or semantic.

·                      Implicit memories can be located in the unconscious and are, therefore, harder to access. This is where procedural memories of driving cars, muscle memory, and even traumatic events can be located.

Memories Can Change

Scientists and researchers will tell you that the best way to strengthen your memory is to keep using it. Keep your brain engaged by constantly recalling and using these memories and making connections. 

Unfortunately, recent studies have shown that memories can change over time. Memories are not set-in-stone and are subject to changes whenever they are accessed. Each time you recall a specific event, you might unknowingly add or omit details that were not part of the original memory.

This happens because people typically forget some details from past events. Over time, these memories become “cloudier” and might even get mixed up with other memories.

Final Thoughts

Memories are not like a computer or a mind palace, as Sherlock Holmes would like to put it. Come to think of it, the mind palace only ever worked because Sherlock Holmes frequently used these memories, which is why they remained active and easy to access. Although memories are enduring, they are just as vulnerable to errors and biases. 

The Working Memory and Short-Term Memory

When it comes to the anatomy of the brain and its functions, people often speak of short-term memory and working memory. Some use it interchangeably, while others provide vague descriptions that distinguish one from the other. Here is a short explanation of each and how they are different. 

The Working Memory

The working memory is a system in the brain that has to do with reasoning and comprehension. Because it is a system, the working memory does more than just store information. When a piece of information enters the working memory, it can be manipulated and processed. Parts of the brain involved in working memory functions include the frontal cortex, prefrontal cortex, anterior cingulate, and basal ganglia.

It is important to note that the working memory declines with age. To prevent this, you have to keep your brain “working” by doing activities like learning new skills, reading, and pursuing a hobby. 

Short Term Memory

Short-term memory is one part of a bigger system, which is the working memory. The term “short term memory” is sometimes used interchangeably with active or primary memory because it has to do with storing information for a period of a few seconds to 30 seconds. All of this information is temporary and quickly forgotten. However, through the process of repetition and use, it can move into the long-term memory. Short-term memory handles information that is active and readily available.

The Difference Between Working Memory and Short-Term Memory

The working memory and short-term memory are sometimes confused with each other. The short-term memory stores information for a few seconds, while the working memory processes and structures the information for a short time.

To give a concrete example: short term memory is in charge of helping you remember the phone number that your friend dictated to you as you save it on your smartphone. Working memory is in charge of helping you process information that you learned in class as you take notes and study.

Summary

The working memory and the short-term memory, although sometimes used interchangeably, are different things. To be specific, the short-term memory stores information for only a few seconds and is part of a bigger system—the working memory. Through consistent use and repetition, the information stored in the working memory and short-term memory can be transferred to the long-term memory.  

10 Disturbing Facts About Teen Dating Violence

According to Choose Respect (a national initiative), some dating patterns start early in life that cause violence throughout a person’s lifetime. This initiative aims to help youngsters in the age group of 11-14 years to keep away from abusive relationships.

Parents, teachers, and students in the US should be aware of the prevailing dating violence among teenagers in the nation. Based on the information provided by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, one in eleven adolescents suffers from physical violence related to dating. The number of victims might be even more because most youngsters and adults prefer not to reveal their involvement in an abusive relationship. Besides this, some young people do not know what abuse is. If they are aware of the signs of abuse, they can avoid partners who mistreat them emotionally or physically.

Facts About Dating Violence Encountered by the Youth

The information provided by the Choose Respect initiative can enable the teenagers to understand the patterns of abusive relationships. In case they have encountered abuse, they will know that others have experienced the same thing, and it is possible to find someone who will respect them.

  1. Most teen dating violence takes place in the house of one of the dating partners.
  2. About seventy percent of young girls have suffered rape at the hands of someone they know, such as a friend, casual acquaintance, or boyfriend.
  3. About twenty percent of teenage girls said their partner threatened to harm themselves or commit violence if their relationship ended.
  4. About eighty percent of the young women who have been abused physically during dating continue to have a relationship with the abuser.
  5. Eighty percent of teenagers feel that verbal abuse is a severe problem.
  6. One out of three teenagers knows a peer or friend who has encountered violent actions like hitting, kicking, slapping, punching, or choking by their partner.
  7. Fifty-four percent of the students in high school have witnessed dating violence amongst their peers.
  8. About one out of five girls have been abused sexually or physically by their dating partner in high school.
  9. About one out of five adolescents have reported that they have suffered from emotional abuse.
  10. Every year about one out of four teenagers report physical, sexual, emotional, or verbal abuse.

Ways to Combat Dating Violence amongst Teenagers

Teachers, counselors, friends, and parents should be vigilant about it. As soon as they notice any signs of abuse, they can talk to the victim.

Usually, abuse takes place in the houses of adolescents. So parents should watch the interactions of their children with their partners. They can forbid their partners from visiting them when there are no adults to supervise. If their child encounters dating violence, parents can provide therapy for them and inform law enforcement.

Parents’ relationships with their children play a significant role in preparing them for healthy dating partnerships. Youngsters who experience physical, sexual, or emotional abuse from caregivers, parents, or others might develop trauma. As a result, they may attract dating partners who are not safe. If parents love their children, treat them respectfully, and fulfill their emotional requirements, there will be fewer chances for them to enter into abusive relationships later.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Explained

Have you ever wondered what motivates us to do the things we do? Well, Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is a widely known theory that attempts to answer this question. As a disclaimer, I am not totally sold on its validity, but to complete this blog, I will suspend belief and stick an explanation of the theory itself.

As a humanist, Maslow believed that all humans have a desire to reach a state of self-actualization, that is, the inborn need to live up to their potential. However, before they can achieve this, they need to meet basic needs, such as the need for food, safety, love, and self-esteem. Maslow includes five tiers in his hierarchy of needs. In today’s article, we will explain Maslow’s hierarchy in depth.

From deficiency to growth needs

Maslow’s hierarchy is famously illustrated as a pyramid, with the lower levels being made up of basic needs and the top half housing humanistic needs. The needs at the base of the pyramid are physiological desires such as food, water, sleep, and warmth. After these lower-level needs have been taken care of, then we can move on to the next tier of needs, the desire for safety and security.

When we move up the pyramid, our needs become more social and psychological. The need for love, friendship, and intimacy become essential parts of our lives. Next comes our desire to make our mark in the world, as the need for self-esteem and feelings of success take precedence in our lives. Maslow preached the need for self-actualization or the inborn desire to reach one’s potential in life.

Deficiency Needs vs. Growth Needs

Maslow was under the impression that our needs are comparable to instincts, and the physiological, security, social, and esteem needs are deficiency needs, which come about out of a need for survival. These needs represent the bottom half of the pyramid. The highest tier of the pyramid is known as growth needs. These needs come from a desire to grow, not out of a feeling of deprivation.

Let’s briefly look at each level of the pyramid, starting with the bottom of the pyramid and working our way up to the top.

Level 1: Physiological Needs- These needs are self-explanatory and emanate out of a need for survival of one’s self and the propagation of the human species.

Level 2: Security and Safety Needs- At this level, people want to control their own lives and destiny, and the need for safety and security takes precedence.

Level 3: Social Needs- Social needs like acceptance, belonging, and love takes the front stage. At this level, the need for emotional attachments controls human behavior.

Level 4: Esteem Needs- At this level, people want to be respected and appreciated. As long as the first three levels have been satisfied, esteem can begin to play a more pivotal role in driving behavior.

Level 5: Self-Actualization Needs- At this tier, people are consumed by entelechy. Entelechy is the biological drive that moves us to work towards our potential. Entelechy is also another word for self- actualization, so in a way, entelechy is the motivating force and the destination. At this level, people are concerned with personal growth and less concerned with the perceptions of others, as it can impede them from reaching their potential.

Concluding thoughts

While I am not a total fan of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, it gets more things right than it gets wrong. So for those interested in studying human behavior or facilitating their own growth, his theory is a solid start.

The Psychology of Academic Achievement

If you’ve taken any Psychology 101 course, the age-old “nature vs. nurture” debate was likely covered. While the debate has yet to be settled (spoiler alert: it will never be settled), we can apply the same principles to the psychology of academic achievement and why some individuals are apt for more success in the classroom.

While the process of education has evolved tremendously over time, and varies widely from nation to nation, it seems obvious that environmental factors – the nurture side of the debate – play an incredibly large role in predicting achievement.

When looking at schools with historically low achievement, studies cited in this Psychology Today article, noticed that poor infrastructure and appalling classroom conditions indicate higher dropout rates across the board. On the flipside, when we think about the campuses of Ivy League schools and other elite educational institutions, it’s not only the state-of-the-art facilities and that predict achievement, but also the amount of greenery outside the classrooms, access to natural light and other happiness-inducing and stress-relieving factors that contribute to academic success.

Further supporting the nurture perspective, learned biases and stereotypes can both improve and put staggeringly low limits on a child’s ability to achieve, depending on which side of the narrative a child falls.

Take the classic, “boys are better at math and science” stereotype. Though this claim is far from factual, what really makes a difference is whether or not a child believes it to be true. Research noted by the National Science Foundation shows that stereotypes like these affect girls as early as six years old. By learning such false notions and believing them to be fact, children perceive them as insurmountable limits that are out of their control, thus subconsciously stunting their ability to achieve academically.

However, when we eliminate these biases and teach children that they are capable of achieving, the playing field is level for boys, girls and children of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds, as indicated by minority students studied by researchers at Stanford and the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Though there seems to be more research to back the nurture side of the psychology of academic achievement, it could be because studying genes – indicators of our inherent psychological nature – is a more challenging process. However, researchers cited in BBC Education used DNA tests to identify a child’s likelihood of developing reading problems. Tests like these make it possible for educators to identify children or groups of children who could benefit from early intervention programs, thus preventing setbacks to longer-term academic success.

With all of this information – and much more available to teachers and educators – we can’t necessarily settle the “nature vs. nurture” debate. However, we can better understand the nuances that exist in human psychology and perhaps focus more of our energy on creating curriculum and classrooms that show students what’s possible and help them to believe in their ability to achieve.

How Mindfulness Fits into the American School System

In the western world, we often equate mindfulness with the image of Buddhist monks meditating peacefully under a tree. While that image doesn’t exactly mesh with the day-to-day lives of most Americans, there is still room for incorporating mindfulness into the lives of both adults and children in our schools.

Mindfulness, literally the state of being aware, can mean awareness of ourselves, our environment, the people around us or our own internal states of being. Therefore, mindfulness is not subconscious scrolling of the internet and social media. With the rise of smartphones and our inability to regulate their use in schools and classrooms, it’s virtually impossible to monitor whether we have our students’ full attention or not.

Here’s where mindfulness practices come in handy. By incorporating mindfulness-based activities into daily classroom habits, we can teach students the value of disconnecting from technology and instead to tune into their more subtle emotions and feelings. As students feel more and more pressure from parents and society to do well in school, mindfulness may be the biggest key to relief and mental health, as well as promoting empathy, focus and social connection.

Read on for our three favorite mindfulness tips and tricks for both students and teachers.

For the students:

Encourage students to take breaks when they’re stressed. While teaching meditation might be out of reach for most teachers and traditional school systems, “breathing breaks” are a great place to start. At the beginning of each class or period, spend 30-60 seconds with eyes closed, encouraging everyone to remain quiet and listen to their breath.

Snack time! I don’t know a single teacher who would dispute the beauty of snack time. Children just love snacks. This is also a wonderful opportunity to teach mindful eating. Make mindfulness a game by asking kids to observe their food. Ask them what it looks like, how they think it was made, where it comes from, what it feels like on their hands and tongues, what it tastes like, etc. Then, encourage them to count their bites, see how many times they can chew their food before swallowing or name the parts of their body it passes through en route to their stomachs. These actions bring students into the present moment, serve as great aids in teaching anatomy and biology, as well as promote full digestion of their meal.

Take journal breaks. Ideally, at the beginning or end of each school day, give children time to express themselves through writing. Opt for handwriting instead of typing, as it encourages a slower pace and more thoughtfulness when choosing words. If your classroom experiences success with journaling, you may want to consider integrated arts, to further promote the creative process.

For the teachers:

Take time to really get to know your students. If you’re not from the same town as your school or reside outside your district, do your research. Learn about the place where your students live, and strive to better connect with them to allow yourself greater insight as to why they may or may not be succeeding. By creating an inclusive classroom, students are naturally more engaged, more apt to participate and more likely to mirror that inclusiveness with their peers.

Teach a class or a lesson outdoors. Spending time outside is crucial to kids’ development and, as a teacher, you can implement the required curriculum and facilitate students’ appreciation for the earth by taking your class outside. You can work nature into practically any lesson plan – science, literature, geography, math, history – and give children a much-needed break from the four walls of your classroom.

Experiment with your own mindfulness practice out of the classroom. Teaching is both an immensely rewarding and stressful career. Do the three things listed above yourself before you begin teaching them to your class. In your free time, try a yoga class, go for walks, spend time outside, talk to a therapist. Your mental health is essential to a positive and nurturing classroom. By bettering yourself, you set a positive example for your students and gain firsthand experience with the mindful habits you’re aiming to impart on them.

Mindfulness is like a muscle that can be strengthened with practice over time. Try incorporating these suggestions and other practices little by little and observe how your students adapt. What are some ways you make learning a mindful practice?

Positive Psychology: The Key to a Thriving Classroom

When we think of psychology and psychiatry, traditionally, we think of “fixing” or solving some form of a mental conundrum or psychopathology. However, with the advancement of psychology and a greater understanding of the human mind, researchers have pioneered the field of positive psychology.

By definition, positive psychology is the study of what takes people from average and satisfied to thriving, healthy and consistently happy. Working collaboratively with traditional psychology and its focus on understanding and healing dysfunction, positive psychology allows greater insight into a person’s life purpose and brings a sense of meaning to our daily existence.

This relatively new, more optimistic approach to life and mental health has exciting implications for the real world as well as in the classroom. Here are a few ways you can use the power of positive psychology to take your classroom from surviving to thriving and help your students achieve their full potential.

  • As with clinical psychology, positive psychology practices are most effective when a baseline of health, order and control are established. Before going all-in with positive psychology in the classroom, it’s first necessary to hone your classroom discipline strategy, achieve a solid level of trust and understanding with your students and figure out a set of classroom rules that work for you.
  • Practice mindfulness in the classroom. Mindfulness, bringing one’s attention to the present moment, has shown to contribute directly to children’s development of cognitive and performance skills, executive function, social wellbeing, emotional stability and physical health, as evidenced in research done in association with the University of Exeter. Not to mention, mindfulness practices are quick, easy, require no funding and can also help improve your own mental health as an educator.
    • If you find success with mindfulness in your classroom, approach your administration about a school- or district-wide plan to give students consistent and holistic exposure to mindfulness.
  • When it comes to discipline, make positive reinforcement your go-to strategy. Positive reinforcement is the first step in preventing poor classroom behavior, and encourages students to make good decisions without the threat of punishment. Strategies for positive reinforcement include:
    • Giving extra credit for thoughtful answers or participation
    • Giving students explicit praise for good behavior
    • Encourage students to recognize effort and good behavior in their peers. Remember, you don’t have to be the sole positive reinforcer in the classroom. Make it a class-wide practice.
  • Allow time for creative exploration and encourage students to pursue their interests and hobbies that they have outside of the classroom
    • Set aside an hour or two each week during which students can study, practice or research a topic of their choosing. Incorporate this into the curriculum by creating a project or presentation out of this time.
  • Teach students to self-reflect. Journaling, oral expression and sharing with their peers is especially helpful in teaching children the language and social skills necessary to connect with and learn from each other, as well as insight into their mental and emotional functioning.

Positive psychology is all about unlocking our full potential and, as teachers and parents, that’s exactly what we want for our kids. Share your own successes with positive psychology in the comments below to keep the conversation going!

The Psychology of Academic Achievement

If you’ve taken any Psychology 101 course, the age-old “nature vs. nurture” debate was likely covered. While the debate has yet to be settled (spoiler alert: it will never be settled), we can apply the same principles to the psychology of academic achievement and why some individuals are apt for more success in the classroom.

While the process of education has evolved tremendously over time, and varies widely from nation to nation, it seems obvious that environmental factors – the nurture side of the debate – play an incredibly large role in predicting achievement.

When looking at schools with historically low achievement, studies cited in this Psychology Today article, noticed that poor infrastructure and appalling classroom conditions indicate higher dropout rates across the board. On the flipside, when we think about the campuses of Ivy League schools and other elite educational institutions, it’s not only the state-of-the-art facilities and that predict achievement, but also the amount of greenery outside the classrooms, access to natural light and other happiness-inducing and stress-relieving factors that contribute to academic success.

Further supporting the nurture perspective, learned biases and stereotypes can both improve and put staggeringly low limits on a child’s ability to achieve, depending on which side of the narrative a child falls.

Take the classic, “boys are better at math and science” stereotype. Though this claim is far from factual, what really makes a difference is whether or not a child believes it to be true. Research noted by the National Science Foundation shows that stereotypes like these affect girls as early as six years old. By learning such false notions and believing them to be fact, children perceive them as insurmountable limits that are out of their control, thus subconsciously stunting their ability to achieve academically.

However, when we eliminate these biases and teach children that they are capable of achieving, the playing field is level for boys, girls and children of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds, as indicated by minority students studied by researchers at Stanford and the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Though there seems to be more research to back the nurture side of the psychology of academic achievement, it could be because studying genes – indicators of our inherent psychological nature – is a more challenging process. However, researchers cited in BBC Education used DNA tests to identify a child’s likelihood of developing reading problems. Tests like these make it possible for educators to identify children or groups of children who could benefit from early intervention programs, thus preventing early setbacks to longer-term academic success.

With all of this information – and much more available to teachers and educators – we can’t necessarily settle the “nature vs. nurture” debate. However, we can better understand the nuances that exist in human psychology and perhaps focus more of our energy on creating curriculum and classrooms that show students what’s possible and help them to believe in their ability to achieve.